18

Overcoming Fear Of Rejection

Are You Afraid Of Rejection?

overcoming fear of rejection

This TED Talk by Jia Jiang brings us a humorous look at overcoming fear of rejection that holds back so many of us in all areas of life.

From school days…. right until you decide to let go!

At school were you always the last one to be picked for the sports team at school?  I was. (And there wasn’t a Maths or English or Latin team where I could have shone instead!)

At work did you get passed over for promotions merely because you were afraid to put yourself forward?

When you started an online business, were you afraid to ask for the order / sign-up?

Overcoming Your Fear Of Rejection – TED Video

If you can relate to any of the above scenarios, watch the Ted Talk video below and learn how this engaging young man overcame his fear of rejection, and how you can too.

Jia Jiang adventures boldly into a territory so many of us fear: rejection. By seeking out rejection for 100 days — from asking a stranger to borrow $100 to requesting a “burger refill” at a restaurant — Jiang desensitized himself to the pain and shame that rejection often brings and, in the process, discovered that simply asking for what you want can open up possibilities where you expect to find dead ends. Jia Jiang’s journey through rejection revealed a world hidden in plain sight, where people are much kinder than we imagine. Source: TED Talks

 

Jia Jiang described how he overcame the fear of rejection, but that’s just one type of fear. Many people need to overcome other types of fear.

Here are some more general tips….

Tips For Overcoming Fear

Do the thing you fear the most, and the death of fear is certain - Mark Twain. Click To Tweet Don't let your fear of what could happen make nothing happen! Click To Tweet Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference - Winston Churchill Click To Tweet Thinking will not overcome fear, but action will. W Clement Stone Click To Tweet If you really want to do something you'll find a way. If you don't you'll find an excuse. Jim Rohn Click To Tweet It’s OKAY to be scared. It means you’re about to do something really, really brave. Mandy Hale Click To Tweet Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the… Click To Tweet

More quotes about overcoming fear

Overcoming Fear In Practice

Just yesterday one of my newer team members (William) introduced his first Brand Ambassador – and he was, quite rightly, excited and pleased with himself.

Normally when this happens our team leader will get on a Zoom call with the new member and their sponsor to welcome them on board – a kind of “Get to know you” call.  We call it our On-boarding call, and the aim is for it to happen within the first 48 hours of a new member joining.

However, this weekend, our team leader has gone over to Las Vegas for the GSR launch party and he’s such a hard worker for the rest of the time, I was loath to interrupt his well-earned partying.

So I decided to do the call by myself, to get the new recruit up to speed before the full launch this weekend, and in the 48hr window after joining when he’s at his most enthusiastic.

I was somewhat out of my comfort zone – and if William had said “Let’s have the call next week” I’d have jumped at the chance to delay and pass the job to our team leader.

But he said “I’m free tomorrow evening”. So I took a deep breath and scheduled the call.

My First On-Boarding Call

Long story short…. the afternoon before, I spent some useful time preparing notes and Getting Started tips, and did the call.

Neither attendee asked questions I couldn’t answer, and I used my obvious nerves to reassure them that if anyone as nervous as I am could do this, so could they….. because we have a ton of professionally produced videos and presentations and all that Brand Ambassadors have to do is put the correct information in front of customers and let them make up their own mind.

The only scary moment was when they suddenly switched the video camera on, so I sort of had to as well!

Regular readers know what a challenge that is for me. But I had to smile to note that ALL of us nervously ran our fingers through our untidy hair!

How Did It Go?

It went fine.

Was it as professional as the team leader would have done it? No!

Looking back there were points I forgot to make, but I’ll know for another time – and it’s also prompted me to produce a “Getting Started” document that will be useful for me and for others in my team.

After the call I even got a message from my team member thanking me for my support with his new recruit.

So that’s another hurdle overcome.

What Are Your Tips For Overcoming Fear Of Rejection?

Have you got a story to share about overcoming fear of rejection, or any other type of fear? How did it work out for you?

Please share
Joy
 

I left it too late to plan for a financially secure retirement. Don't make my mistake. Start building an extra income with a part-time (or full-time) business online. Think you don't have time? Can't afford the start-up cost? Can't meet sales targets? The businesses I promote overcome all the problems you may have had with Internet Marketing before. Contact me for free advice (no obligation) on the best fit for your circumstances.

Click Here to Leave a Comment Below 18 comments
Robin Khokhar - November 11, 2017

Hi Joy,
Sometimes it is difficult to overcome fear and rejection, but I appreciate your effort in writing such an inspirational post.
Thanks for the share.
Have a good weekend.

Reply
    Joy - November 14, 2017

    Thanks Robin,

    I suppose that’s what makes me all the more pleased to have done so 🙂

    Joy Healey – Blogging After Dark

    Reply
Shantanu Sinha - November 14, 2017

Hello Joy,

Good shout over here 🙂

This is a hot topic, the fear of rejection when a person finds it hard describe their feelings in the public.

I knew how this can add a bad vibe to a person, as I have faced this a lot through my school time and till college. Yeah I have always feared to put myself in front of the crowd and express my feelings, public speaking and that kind of thing, I knew I was right on some points but what if some of my points contradicted others and
I would be rejected on the basis of lame knowledge?

Well time changes a lot of things, whether one is seeking to take right actions on the right time before its too late.
Yeah I failed, I failed a lot but by letting go this fear of rejection one thing I learn that if we have the courage and we are ready to face the consequences then surely it gonna make the difference.

After failures, I do really win, now I can approach some one with a high confidence level.

Thanks for the share.

Shantanu.

Reply
    Joy - November 14, 2017

    Hi Shantanu,

    I’ve also been guilty of keeping quiet when I KNEW I had the right answer to something, but didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. Actually, perhaps it’s worse to let someone blather on in ignorance than to quietly correct them with our own answers.

    Glad you’re finding the benefits of keeping letting go of your fears.

    Joy Healey – Blogging After Dark

    Reply
Toyin Yayu - November 14, 2017

You have shared some valid points on overcoming fear. I find these useful tips. Thanks for sharing.

Reply
    Joy - November 14, 2017

    Hi Toyin,

    Welcome to my blog. I hope you will find some helpful articles here.

    Joy Healey – Blogging After Dark

    Reply
Chery Schmidt - November 14, 2017

Hey Joy! Congrats on your call my friend! Getting out of our comfort zone is always a challenge HUH? I do know that the first call, video as well as a FB live is the hardest. Will the first one be the BEST! Chances are NOT. Right? But yes we learn from this and we will be better next time, or hopefully! LOL

Great Share My Friend!
Thank You!
Chery :))

Reply
    Joy - November 14, 2017

    Thanks Chery,

    Getting over the first of anything is often the hardest, and I shouldn’t really expect it to be perfect first time.

    Yes I’m one who seems to have to learn by my mistakes and happily I have more notes now for the next time I have to do an on-boarding call.

    Thanks for your comment and visit 🙂

    Joy Healey – Blogging After Dark

    Reply
johnsmith - November 15, 2017

Hey Joy
I really appreciate of your effort in this article where you are define how to overcome the fear of rejection, Thank you for sharing Joy.
I hope so you will write new article soon 🙂

Reply
    Joy - November 15, 2017

    Hi John,

    Welcome to my blog, I am so pleased you found me and I hope you will find plenty of helpful information here:-)

    I normally publish a new article every week.

    Joy Healey – Blogging After Dark

    Reply
Richard Monssen - November 15, 2017

Hi Joy,

Fantastic article on overcoming the fear of rejection. The fear of rejection can be a cause for depression in some people especially teenagers in love! This can lead to suicide and other terrible things. So it’s very important that understand how to get past their fear of rejection and this article will do a lot to help that!

I’ve also tweeted some of your cool quotes and followed you on Twitter!

Reply
    Joy - November 15, 2017

    Hi Richard,

    Yes! I mustn’t forget rejection in personal life. It’s very sad how many young people are depressed these days. There’s more awareness of it now – which could be good or bad! But hopefully these tips will help people get past fear of rejection long before suicidal thoughts take hold.

    Thanks for tweeting my quotes – I’ll look out for you on Twitter.

    Joy Healey – Blogging After Dark

    Reply
Marquita Herald - November 16, 2017

One of the best things that ever happened to me was my experience in an executive training program for InterContinental Hotels. As an Introvert, my natural inclination is to stay in the background, but during my training, I had no choice but to learn to deal with massive doses of discomfort – like making cold calls, which is bad enough but I had to do it while someone watched and graded me. Then there was this exercise where we were put in groups and we’d each take a turn trying to sell something (we weren’t told what until it was our turn) over the objections of the others at the table. It was full blown improv! No one was more surprised than me when I actually ended up loving that exercise because of the confidence it gave me. 🙂

Reply
    Joy - November 16, 2017

    Hi Marquita,

    That’s a great story. I particularly like the fact that going through the training actually gave brilliant results – either it taught you a new skill OR it uncovered an existing talent. Either is excellent.

    Cold calls and handling sales objections (especially being observed) are classic examples where you’re likely to meet rejection. I admire anyone who can gain confidence in those areas!!

    Joy Healey – Blogging After Dark

    Reply
Edward Thorpe - November 16, 2017

Hi Joy,

Lovely post about a private hell that many sensitive people live through.

For me, it was public speaking. Terrified me. Made me, 2 times, flunk freshman English, a subject which I loved – all because I literally stand in front of a class of peers and talk for 10 minutes.

Your tips were great and I could’ve of used them way back when…
Edward

Reply
    Joy - November 16, 2017

    Hi Edward,

    Public speaking (or videos!) is a complete no-no for me. I’ve probably mentioned before the lecture I stumbled through with the aid of a glass of neat gin instead of water. They didn’t ask me to do THAT again 🙂

    Yes, I too could’ve done with these tips then!

    Joy Healey – Blogging After Dark

    Reply
Sharon T McLaughlin MD FACS - November 17, 2017

I have never heard this TED talk, very inspiring. Thanks so much for this.

Reply
    Joy - November 17, 2017

    Glad you enjoyed it Sharon.

    Thanks for listening to it.

    Joy Healey – Blogging After Dark

    Reply

Leave a Reply: