Handling A PayPal Dispute

handling a paypal disputeScary thing happened to me this week – I got a PayPal Dispute from a client for one of my complementary health products and handling a PayPal dispute is something new I had to learn about.

I’ve been selling this particular product online for about ten years and the process has developed from being very basic to “automated enough that it seems to work fine”.

If that sounds a bit wishy-washy, it’s just that I am an honest enough to realize that it’s not perfect, but most clients get through it without problems and those who have a question either pick up the phone or email me!

Not this lady – let’s call her Mary, not her real name. She placed her order and paid three weeks ago and I heard nothing more from her – which isn’t unusual (I’ll tell you why below).

To give a little background, this is my Hair Analysis product, and the process is:

  • Client sees website and has the opportunity to download a free ebook to explain the benefits of Hair Mineral Analysis.
  • Hopefully interested enough to send in money to pay for the test. (Otherwise receives blog posts and follow-ups if they subscribed to my list to get the free ebook.)
  • I acknowledge receipt of payment, tell them how to send in the hair sample and set the expectation that their results will be returned to them within three weeks. It’s usually faster, but the lab that does the testing is in the USA and obviously the hair goes by snail-mail, although everything else is done by email.

What Can Go Wrong?

Sometimes a client buys direct from my website without getting the free ebook that puts them onto my list for the follow-up emails that remind them to send in their hair sample. In fact because it’s an unusual service this happens more often than them receiving the ebook.

How I Handle This

To “fix” this when I see any payment come in, whether the client is on my “list” or not, I always follow up manually with a personal email, more or less repeating what goes out to clients in the auto-responder.

  • Thanks for payment.
  • Here’s the ebook pdf that includes instructions on what to do next.
  • If you have any questions here is a PRIVATE email to use so, that client emails don’t get lost in general day-to-day rubbish emails.
  • Invitation to subscribe to my “follow-up tracker” (list) if they haven’t already done so. This sends out a reminder to send in their hair sample about a week after payment.
  • Your results will be delivered within three weeks by email.

This has worked fine and brings in a steady stream of sales, especially since I added in the 3-month reminder that it’s time for their repeat test:-) I must be doing something right because I get people ordering re-rests, AND for friends and family, so most people are impressed with the service.

What Happened to Mary?

Mary went through the “buy direct from website route” – as most people do – and received the personal follow-up. I was vaguely aware that I hadn’t received her hair sample but that is NOT unusual, because the ebook advises that if clients have had recent hair treatment, such as coloring, they should wait up to six weeks before sending the hair sample so that the hair they send is untreated. (If she had joined my list, as I suggested in my email, she would have received a reminder too.)

So all of a sudden three weeks after receiving the payment I got an email from Mary to the private address, announcing that as she hadn’t heard anything from me she wanted to cancel and get her money back – oh and by the way she’d raised a PayPal dispute just to be sure. “Hope that’s OK with you”.

The irony of it all was that she sent this complaint as a REPLY to my email delivering the ebook, the “next steps” and the private email address for problems!

So I replied pretty calmly, pointing out that she had replied using the same email she claimed not to have received, expanding the salient points from my original email (conveniently already included!) into BIG green text, and expressing sadness that she had chosen to raise a PayPal dispute before contacting me first via the email she was now using.

In The PayPal Resolution Center

Then I headed off to investigate what to do about a PayPal dispute because I’ve never had one before. There to my horror I found that she had sent this appalling email to PayPal saying that I hadn’t delivered the goods or contacted her and I was unprofessional and “not legit”.

Of course I freaked out completely and replied that it was totally ridiculous because…. and reiterated all that I have explained above.

I also pointed out that on the same day I had received a payment from a client in Singapore and he had gone through the whole process, including posting his hair sample to the UK, the hair sample then going onto the USA, and he had received his test results, in the promised three weeks. (Mary and I are both in the UK!)

A Happy Resolution?

Well, Mary sent an apology and said she hadn’t realized how serious a PayPal dispute could be. She said she’d now read everything I’d sent her and was happy to go ahead if I was – and she wouldn’t cause any more problems! Never one to lose a customer I just replied to the effect of: “Let’s put this behind us and start again. Close the dispute, say you misunderstood, send in your hair sample and be careful to send enough hair so we have no more delays.”

Mary has closed the dispute, thank goodness, but I still haven’t had the hair sample!

What Did I Learn From Handling A PayPal Dispute?

My procedure has evolved and improved over several years because I always adapt it by adding in “what went wrong” with any previous transaction. So I have now amended that personal email to spell out in great detail that they are receiving an ebook not a physical product.

As most of my clients are overseas this doesn’t surprise them. Because Mary was in the UK I guess she expected a physical book to drop through the door. I shouldn’t have assumed that everyone was familiar enough with a pdf link to know it’s an ebook.

In the past I tried sending people a direct subscribe invitation to my “list” so that they would get the reminder emails, but most ignored them, so it seemed better to include the invitation in the personal “thanks for payment” email. This of course, does rely on people reading that email. (I promise it’s not long, and it’s broken up into short paragraphs!)

Someone told me that in PayPal there’s a way to add people to your list automatically and put them into your auto-responder. Obviously that’s another job to add to the “to-do list”.

Luckily many years worth of clients have used the service without problems, so I hope that handling a PayPal dispute won’t be anything I have to do again.

If you have any more suggestions as to what I could have done better, or have your own experiences, please include them in the comments below.


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12 Responses so far.

  1. Jan Kearney

    I don’t use PayPal often, so not had the wonderful experience of dealing with a dispute.
    I’m glad yours got sorted quickly Joy!
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    • Joy Healey

      Hi Jan, I guess with your local business it’s more convenient for all concerned for customers to pay you without the use of 3rd parties like PayPal. Let’s hope it’s an experience I don’t have to repeat again! Thanks for your comment. Joy
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  2. Loraine says:

    Hi Joy
    Another learning curve sorted, you don’t know what you need to know until something different occurs.

    Running your own business is sometimes a bit of an adventure, I have a PayPal account but like Jan don’t use it much.
    I have an online merchant account that helps me take payments in my regular property management business. I can refer you to their services if you think it would be beneficial.

    • Joy Healey

      Hi Loraine, an adventure indeed! Who needs “scary movies” and “soap operas” when we have real life in Internet Marketing?
      Thanks for the offer re the other online merchant account. With this resolved I am OK for the moment thanks but should I need it in the future I’ll get in touch.
      Fingers crossed that’s another crisis resolved. Joy
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  3. Hi
    As I use ebay to sell items I have had some experience with Paypal. They like ebay are more for the buyer than the seller, I loss a case once even when I had tracking information apparently i was meant to have a cystal ball and know that they had moved. Although in their defence i do find it scary when people sell things on facebook to strangers and they just pay it into their bank accounts. Trusting or just stupid, I am sure Internet Marketing is going to hold a few scary moments for most of us.
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    • Joy Healey

      Hi Elaine, Gosh – at least my seller admitted she was in the wrong. That is worrying. Shame that honest traders get tarred with the same bush by a the rogues out there.
      Good luck with your ebay sales and thanks for dropping by. Joy
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  4. Bonnie Gean


    I’m not sure what type of “automated” set up you have there, but why don’t you REQUIRE people to sign up to your list before you give them access to the eBook?

    Seems to me, if you did this, there shouldn’t be any problems with people getting your automated reminder, download link or instructions of what to do next.

    AND you wouldn’t be required to contact them personally!
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    • Joy Healey

      Hi Bonnie,
      Put like that I see what you mean, LOL. However what I should have said in the post was “MOST times a client buys direct from my website” without having opted in to get the book, which is why I always send the book because they usually didn’t get it.

      Seems a shame to stop them buying if they don’t want to download the ebook – although they’ve got to have it in the end! By “automated setup” I meant an auto-responder if they DO download the ebook.
      To be honest I can’t face fiddling with the sales website (it’s HTML, not a blog).

      Happily I’ve only had this happen once in several years so I’ll live with sending the email and making the wording more clear.

      Thanks for your comment, Joy
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  5. Dawna says:

    Like you, I am in DS Domination and so glad I applied their training to sell on Ebay. It has truly made all the difference financially and what’s even better there are genuine people like you who share their trials and how to over come them.

  6. I find it very frustrating when buyers file a dispute with pay pal without even contacting me. Gee, you purchased from me, how is pay pal going to help you get the download?

    It doesn’t happen to often, but annoying when it does.

    Sounds to me like you handled it perfectly fine.

    Always going to be people who don’t read instructions or emails they get. If you haven’t had many, your doing things right.

    One quick thing, I’ve heard that Pay Pal doesn’t like it if you make people subscribe BEFORE they get what they purchased. just a thought :)
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    • Joy Healey

      Yes, I was fuming at the time. And the silly thing is – a week further on – she STILL hasn’t returned the samples this was all about!
      I hadn’t heard about PayPal not liking “pre-subscribes”. The problem is that if they don’t subscribe and go away without purchasing, I’ve lost the sale. I’m going to have to look at linking my auto-responder into PayPal so they get the delivery of the digital product as the “Thank-you” page. It never ends :-) Thanks for dropping by Ron.
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